I had to change schools after 10th grade from one which had a great bunch of students, (in the truest sense of the word) to one whose students had the reputation of being rich, spoilt brats. Like any other teenager, I had my share of ups and downs during high school. But in the end I feel that I have a better understanding of people and how to live life. So here’s the compiled highlights of my newfound wisdom.
People will talk about you behind your back, spread rumours, poke fun or judge you. I was no exception but the only way to evade this would be to not do or say anything at all ! I have learnt to accept and be at peace with this fact and carry on as usual because if I actually start listening or even worse, try changing myself in a bid to impress them, I’ll be their slave. I have learnt to simply BE MYSELF.
- One’s clique or group of friends determines how they turn out. Being around good people goes a long way in building your character. I had really bad company initially, but I hung out with them nevertheless.’ I am strong-willed, I won’t be negatively influenced’, I thought. But soon enough my grades started deteriorating and I got into trouble with my parents. I learnt that being alone is better than being with bad company. We should try to BE AROUND PEOPLE WE WANT TO BE LIKE.
- Helping our family members and close friends in times of need is our responsibility, but I feel that we shouldn’t let anyone else’s needs come above our own. I have learnt to PUT MYSELF FIRST. Self before Service ! Attempts to go out of your way to help others, at our own expense, just to get in their good books is a no-no.
- ‘If so many intelligent people think so, it must be true, right?’ I had a tendency to go by whatever the “smart” people or the majority had to say. I now know that mindlessly following the majority like a herd of sheep isn’t the way to go. I have a brain/mind of my own which I should use to think rationally and logically. I have learnt NOT TO SUCCUMB TO PEER PRESSURE and do what’s right for me in accordance with my core values.
- APPEARANCES ARE DECEPTIVE. People do not come with warning signs like “Beware : Bad influence” or “Jerk Alert”. Not everyone is how they outwardly project themselves. I now know not to trust anyone blindly and that a tiny bit of scepticism goes a long way in defending oneself from two-faced people.