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Once upon a time, in a land far far away
There lived a girl, her disposition sullen and grey.
Her eyes unseeing, her countenance staid
Her lonesome figure clothed in plaid.
Then from the corner of her eyes, she noticed a light
Something sparkling, shining so bright.
A new pair of golden shoes, brilliantly dazzling
Her mother placed before her – “a gift for my darling”.
She wore them, hopped, skipped and played
Her neighbours’ envy, their jealous stares betrayed
Nothing could wipe off her lovely smile
In her new shoes, she walked many a mile.
They were unconventional, they were new
Never seen before, except by a few
Indeed a distinctive possession, for a unique lady
An equally unique adventure followed lately
She chanced upon a girl, young and bright
Pulling a cart in the scorching sunlight.
Her lack of footwear didn’t slow her down
She worked gaily, without any frown
Two choices waited for her decision
She parted with her golden shoes without hesitation
Strangely she didn’t feel bereft or repentant,
As she walked home barefoot, still buoyant.
She realized something that day
An epiphany, some might say.
The antidote for a life dull, boring or bitter
Was just a little bit of GLITTER !
The scene is of a dining room. The hostess has painstakingly prepared an experimental dish which she serves to her guests. The guests comprise of a lady and her children. The guests eagerly taste her creation.
Hostess : “So, what do you think ?”
Lady : “Umm..It’s not quite working for me actually.”
The children look on wide-eyed at their dialogue and say nothing.
Later that day, on returning home.
Child 1 : “Why did you tell her that you didn’t like her dish straight to her face?”
Lady : “Because that’s how I really felt about it.”
Child 1 : “Wasn’t that impolite ? You probably hurt her feelings.”
Child 2 : “Wouldn’t it have been better if you’d appreciated the dish and her efforts even if that meant lying ?”
This scene brings certain questions to the fore.
Was the Lady really wrong in expressing her frank opinion ? Is it alright to lie just to spare someone’s feelings ? Would the Hostess be better off with false praise ? Will honest criticism help her refine the dish or dampen her confidence in the long run ?
I’m the kind of person who is brutally honest about my feelings and opinions. I strive to sincerely express what I think about others and I actually like it this way. But every now and then I’m chided by for being too blunt. The following conversation is one I’ve had numerous times.
“You shouldn’t have said that”
Me : “Why ?”
“You just shouldn’t have !”
The general complaint for my affliction of truthfulness is that it upsets people and often comes across as rude. But wouldn’t they like to know what I really think ? Wouldn’t they benefit from constructive criticism? Wouldn’t they like to know where they’re going wrong ? Has being fake become the way of life now, the acceptable thing to do?
I have seen people who candidly confess their feelings (both positive and negative) regarding a certain someone to EVERYONE ELSE except the person concerned. Sometimes they behave in a completely different way in front of them and flip one-eighty when they’re not around. Shouldn’t these feelings be discussed with the person concerned ? Won’t being deceitful will hamper relationships in the long run ?
What if I was the person concerned and people talked about me behind my back ?
I would like to know how a person really feels about me. I personally, would like everybody to tell me the ugly truth rather than raise my expectations by innovating pretty lies. It’s better in the long run. I wouldn’t want to live a life that was an illusion, confined in a little bubble of lies. I want to be at peace with the supreme reality. It’s funny how everyone wants to know the truth, but nobody’s willing to say it.
Whenever I’ve lied in the past, it’s been like a burden placed upon my head. Being transparent gives me satisfaction as I’m not deceiving anyone, not even myself. But, the downside to being transparent though, is that sometimes you’re too straightforward with people in the first meeting itself, raised eyebrows and shocked expressions are guaranteed. Having said that, I would like to add – being frank does not imply giving a free reign to malice and constructing words for the sole purpose of wounding someone’s feelings.
We’ve always heard how “Honesty is the best policy” during our formative years. Kids are extremely open about their opinions. They say that : When a man says something cruel to you he’s being mean. When a woman says something negative about you she’s just jealous BUT when a kid says something, it’s most definitely true.
So why not make it a Moral Code- To say what is true !
Agree or Disagree (Its completely your call) ? Be honest and tell me what you think ! 😉