Dear Problems

Dear Problems, You know who you are. Our paths cross from time to time. You were there when I was in high school. Yes you ! You visit me at work sometimes. And you ! You tried to sneak up … Continue reading



The other day, I was talking to a friend. She is building her own company from scratch and things aren’t looking too good. She is toiling away day and night to fix issues as and when they crop up. She has the support of a few trusted colleagues. Together, they are trying to turn their dreams into reality. As time passes by, things look even more bleak. They dodn’t know what they are doing wrong, they’ve tried everything (Yes ! Everything they possibly could).

My first instinct is to motivate my friend by saying something positive. Something along these lines :

Making mistakes means that you’re trying” &

If you don’t give up on getting there then you are not on the wrong road.”

But I don’t. It sounds cliched to my own ears and I am pretty sure she’s heard it all before. Many people must have tried to “help” her before me by saying :

Don’t give up” ,

Try, try and try again until you succeed

Rome wasn’t built in a day” or

Success is 99% perspiration and 1% inspiration.”

She must have been given countless pep talks, read all the positive quotes there are and then some. She is passionate, inspired and very meticulous with her plans. She sets time-bound goals and makes sure she achieves them. She doesn’t need anybody
to tell her to work harder, she already is ! The problem is that it isn’t working !

Haven’t we all been in a situation where no matter how hard we tried, no matter how much we sacrificed or how much energy we spent to achieve something, we still didn’t ?

We gave it our best, but apparently our best wasn’t good enough !
Does the fact that we didn’t triumph necessarily mean that we were half-hearted ? Does it point to the fact that we could have done something “more”?

Is it possible that the real reason was an external factor
beyond our control or sheer luck ? This makes me wonder, are there times WHEN WORK SIMPLY DOES NOT WORK ?

Times when the amount of our efforts are irrelevant ?
Times when the situation is not in our control ?

Times when our success is dependent on a host of factors, often not in our hands ?

Perhaps there are. Maybe when someone fails, we shouldn’t jump to the conclusion that their efforts were lacking. Maybe we should try to understand their situation first and then decide whether our “help” is actually helpful ! We should be open-minded about there being unforseeable circumstances or hurdles that simply cannot be overcome.

Perhaps there are also instances where failure is not so bad. Maybe failure is a harsh word that seeks to diminish our efforts. Maybe it isn’t failure at all ! Maybe when our carefully laid-out plans fall through despite our best efforts, we should stop blaming ourselves. Maybe we should grow and learn from the experience and walk along one step at a time – always moving forward. After all, don’t they always say :

If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans.





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There is some comfort in the fact that if you were stranded on a deserted island with a kitchen and a fully stocked pantry, you wouldn’t die of hunger. Dying of boredom is another matter entirely !

Larning how to cook means that you don’t have to depend on your mom or the pizza delivery guy to satiate your hunger pangs. Ever ! Feeling independent doesn’t get any more awesome than this.



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Hundreds of ingredients, thousands of ways to combine them to create a million different delectable dishes ! Experimenting with flavours or cooking techniques invariably brings out your creative best. Having said that, not all experiments end in success. You just learn to take the disastrous ones in your stride. Putting your grey cells to work doesn’t get any more inspiring than this !



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Every city, every town, every country has its own way with food. Exploring a place through its culinary heritage is educational , fascinating, not to mention an absolute treat for your taste buds. Imagine recreating and eating Waffles from Belgium, Tacos from Texas, Roast Beef & Yorkshire Pudding from England and Tandoori Chicken from India ! Upholding your identity as the citizen of the world doesn’t get any more fantastic than this !



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‘The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach’. No, this isn’t a decleration made by someone who flunked biology. Well, this much exhausted piece of advice wouldn’t have lived for this long if it weren’t true. And this applies not only for men, but practically everyone from your teacher to your dog. Winning someone over doesn’t get any easier than this.



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Bake lemon cake, or tart, or curd. You will be appaled at the Plethora of things you can make from the same boring, old ingredients that you find in your fridge. We all know about comfort food, but we strongly believe that comfort cooking is also a thang. Cooking can be a stress buster and in some cases even therapeutic. Giving life your best shot doesn’t get any better than this.



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In this day and age, no one can possibly resist Food porn on Instagram. That moment of glory when you get more likes since you’re the one to have concorted a culinary masterpiece, is priceless. Impressing people doesn’t get any easier than this.